As a Child
I remember the excitement of trick or treating on Halloween night like it was yesterday. I also remember the excitement of October 31st deflating like a balloon the first time an adult gave me a nasty look and asked, “aren’t you a little old for trick or treating?” At first, I didn’t register her question and replied-“No,” and walked off with my candy. My large group of cousins returned to our parents at the sidewalk and I pulled the sleeve of my mom’s coat to ask, “is nine too old to go trick or treating?”
“Jolly green giant” or “growing like a weed” were phrases my mom said to me all the time. In elementary school, I was proud to not only be the tallest kid in my class but the tallest kid in my grade. I walked with pride knowing I could see above all the other kid’s heads in the lunchroom. My lengthy arms could easily reach the forbidden candy in the kitchen pantry at home. I loved being tall. But, that Halloween night a stranger told me I was too old to go trick or treating changed my perspective on my height.
Suddenly, I was ashamed to be tall because it made me older than I really was. And I just wanted to be a kid. It took time for me to move on from that stranger’s accusation, but that phase never left me. I did go trick or treating for a few more years after that experience, but I made sure to hang back in the group or help a toddler cousin. I just wanted to blend in with the rest of the crowd my age. Frankly, as an adult I question- what business did a stranger have pointing out something as silly as height?
As a Mother
I know you know where this is paragraph is going to go… I was wounded as a child, so as an adult I overcompensate…. well sorta. Is it so hard to show just a little bit of kindness around the holidays? I don’t think so! Being kind and considerate are two simple traits that are soooo greatly needed, but especially around the Holidays. So yes, I want to be a kind and trusting friend to all. Tell me in advance that your kid has a food allergy and I will make sure something is put aside for her. Your teenager still wants to be a kid and go trick or treating- send them my way- I’ll give them a Snickers. Being kind and considerate of others is just two simple ways to make this holiday season an enjoyable one.
The bottom line, there is nothing I enjoy more than being with my kids on the Holidays. There are so many great traditions and Halloween is a great night to be with the kids parading around in their chosen costumes. In our neighborhood, everyone leaves a bucket of candy on their porch with a sign “Please Take One” (grab yours here for free) and our kids run around to the doors while the parents chat. Have I mentioned, stealing the kids Halloween candy buckets afterward for all the Reese’s is a total win? 😉 Come to my door on Halloween night, due to my own childhood experience when I answer the door the question I ask any sized height kid is- which candy would you like?
Hoping for kindness and consideration this Halloween season, and of course, good weather too:
What treats do you steal from your kid’s Halloween bucket?