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How to Have One-On-One Time with Your Kids

in Guest Post, Parenting on 23/04/20

I have three high-energy, very INTENSE children (plus a baby sister that seems to be following suit). This generates a lot of fun, exhaustion and creativity at our house. I’ve found myself investing more in parenting resources than I ever expected, prior to having kids. One of my favorite parenting products I’ve purchased is the “Positive Parenting Solutions” premium package by Amy McCready. (Oh la la…) And McCready’s principle of “Special Time” has changed my parenting game for the better!

So, what IS One-on-One “Special Time”?

“Special time” is an effective parenting tool by the acclaimed Amy McCready’s, “Positive Parenting Solutions” online course.

One of McCready’s main tools is called: Mind-Body-and-Soul time, or “Special Time” as we call it at our house. It’s ten minutes of one-on-one time with your child doing something he or she wants to do. The key is to be fully present and show them that they matter. McCready advises doing this with each of your children, daily– which, I think, is a challenge! However…

The “Why”:

When our kids have their “attention bucket” full, they tend to whine, fight-back, and misbehave LESS! Instead, they have a sense of power and fulfillment. It’s all based on Adlerian Psychology, and it makes sense, right? I figure it’s worth doing!  So I tried it. I liked it! 

GREAT advice for starting some 1-on-1 time with your kids. The Why, the HOW, and great printables to make it a success! 1) an activity idea generator to find quality things to do together, top 10 tips for successful "special time"

The “How”:

Amy McCready’s recommends doing special time:  ten minutes, per kid, per day.  I found that I needed some strategies to make the special time a success. Otherwise, I was putting off Special Time and it just didn’t happen all together.

Four Main Tactics to Help You Start:
  1. Set an Alarm.  I decided to do one kid each day at the same time each day. I figured out a time that works well with naps, school, etc. Then I set an alarm to remind me to put the baby down for a nap and then start “special time”.  I do each kid during the day and then stories and pillow talk at night.
  2. Predetermine what the other kids (not in special time) will do.  Ideally, the other sibling might be at school,  practice, or nap time. But if not, here’s what I use for some ideas: play on the tablet, color, quiet time activities, play in the backyard, family jobs, or read a book in their room.
  3. Guilt-free mind-frame. This special ten minutes with your child is all about them! You are catering to the Child Ego-State, they decide on the activity and you as the parent get to play along. As a parent, you might feel frustrated that you’re wasting your time. But remember, this time is all about enjoying the time with your child. These few minutes of the day are where you’re totally off the hook from getting anything done- just relax and be a kid!
  4. Have a list of activities or ideas written down. Call it exhaustion or mom brain, but sometimes I can’t remember what we had planned for “Special time”. So I keep a list of ideas on our family board. Or, if you are out of ideas- check out this printable to get those wheels turning. Just remember- this is a child-led activity, so let them pick!
The “Perfect Printable”:

GREAT advice for starting some 1-on-1 time with your kids. The Why, the HOW, and great printables to make it a success! 1) an activity idea generator to find quality things to do together, top 10 tips for successful "special time"

If you’d like a printable copy of our one-on-one time activity idea generator, please subscribe and we’ll email it over! We really hope it ends up being a big success for you, like it has for me and Tiffaynee. So, we ALSO made a printable that has our top ten tips that have been key for us to make it a success!

One of the tips for one-on-one special time: write your fun times together on a chalk-board. This does 3 things: 1) Reminds you, and helps you stay motivated to fill it up with fun experiences together, 2) Helps you focus on the positive interaction with your kids, and 3) Acts as a journal to save the memories if you take a picture of it when it gets full!

The Verdict:

I have seen that when I give my kids my time and attention in positive ways, it is an investment and we do have less need for the power-struggles. I’d rather spend the ten minutes in a proactive, pleasant interaction with my little girl, than a ten-minute talk-her-down-from-a-tantrum session. There have been several times over the years where we’re having a hard day with kids being out-of-control, and I can usually pinpoint that I haven’t really given that child the attention in a way that they feel valued and appreciated. So- be sure to check out the printables to help you make it a success for both you and your child. I now think it’s a total must!

Amy McCready’s full system incorporates several other tools and so sometimes I need to remind myself that there’s more to this “parenting thing” than just giving my kids one-on-one attention! I have loved being a premium member of PPS- it’s totally changed my mom experience for the way-better! If you ever want to make sure you’re being the best parent you can be, I would definitely recommend checking out this free webinar– she shares some great info and ideas that are so helpful!

Early on, I noticed that one-on-one special time helps me to handle the hard moments with confidence and security. I feel connected to my child, and that’s so important! With “special time”, I feel like I have an enhanced sense to know what they need from me; and the bonding time carries me through the “you’re-drivin’-me-crazy” times!

Do you do one-on-one time with your kids? Ever tried Amy McCready’s system before? What do you think about it?

Best wishes,

Jennica

About Jennica

Jennica is a mom to four energetic girls, and wife to her love-at-second-sight husband. She ran a cleaning business for ten years, and would love to see the day that her entire house could be clean-- all at the same time. Until then, you’re likely to find her folding big loads of laundry while listening to inspiring podcasts, or chasing her little girls down the street!

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Comments

  1. Mona says

    August 3, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    Good stuff, Jenn!!!

  2. Ashley says

    August 5, 2016 at 8:20 am

    I love the idea of connecting every day. We’ve been doing special dates, and I have noticed much better behavior. I do spend time each day with my kids on their schoolwork, and reading time especially has become very special for my kids. I also have them help me with dishes or dinner, and we chat about what’s going on with them at that time. So I guess it’s not a super special or even different activity, but I think it helps to connect over the everyday tasks and activities as well. I want to try out some different stuff and see how that goes. ?

  3. Tiffaynee says

    August 5, 2016 at 11:58 pm

    We have LOVED doing the Positive Parenting Solutions program. One-on-one time (or “special time” as we call it) is seriously our girl’s favorite part of the day. They always look forward to the activities they get to choose! It’s so fun to see all the things they come up with and how much they have actually spending time with us as parents. Love it!

  4. Ashlee says

    August 7, 2016 at 11:02 am

    This is such an awesome concept. I’ll have to remember this when I start having kids!

  5. Chloé of beyond blessed says

    August 9, 2016 at 9:28 am

    What a fantastic idea! I don’t have kids yet, but absolutely will try this when we do!! Thank you!

    http://beyondblessedblog.com/

  6. Farrah says

    August 9, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    I LOVE having one-on-one time with London when my husband is away at work. It is the best ever! I need to try some of these activities… Love them all!

    Xox,
    Farrah & London
    londonhadalittlelamb.com

  7. Caitlin says

    August 11, 2016 at 2:22 am

    Some good ideas but many of them would take waaaayyy longer than the 10 minutes suggested. And god knows, if one kid gets more than 10 minutes mbs time, the other ones are going to lose their minds.

    • Jennica says

      August 11, 2016 at 3:55 pm

      Hey caitlin! lol- #truth right there! So- yeah- any of these activities (watercolor painting etc.)- I start the one “special child” off for 8-10ish min and then let the other kid join in after she’s done with their “keep-em-busy” activity. Totally works! but yeah- there are some that would be a VERY special special time thats more of a special occasion.

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