The day after New Years, my mother would call the family to the dinner table and make us write our goals down for the year. I remember thinking it was a waste of time, when technically- half of the school year was over. To make my mother happy, I would write goals centered around school and friends. Once in high school, my mother’s New Years resolutions requirements required specific details in certain categories- which I found annoying and time-consuming. Now that I’m older and certainly much wiser– I understand the necessity to write down specific goals to work toward them and see progression in the smallest form. There is nothing more fulfilling than having a checklist with items actually getting crossed off!
Where to Start:
Social media has lots of positive and negative literature about New Years Resolutions. One might question, How does one night change anything? The truth is- one night doesn’t change everything… but it can change one’s perspective. In January we can take the opportunity to reflect on the previous year of our personal growth and choose to make the following year better. Now that I am married and have a family, my goals list has expanded to six categories:
Individual Goal: Let’s start with the most important goal first –you.
The safety procedures for a passenger on a crashing plane means the passenger must put on their own oxygen mask before assisting others with theirs. This safety concept not only applies to flying but to life as: mothers caregivers, maid, pack mule, chef, carpool queen and the soap watching- bon-bon eating women (ya right!). Taking time to think about and care for number one isn’t something to be ashamed of, it is necessary! So here’s the first easy task…. think about yourself, as an important human being in your family-take care of YOU! What do you want this year?
What do I want this year? I’ll tell you! I want to sleep more at night. Which means no more 2 am bedtime. I want to read more books. I love to read, but don’t make the time for it- this year I am determined to make a dent in the pile of books sitting next to my bed. Have you seen our exclusive book club group and all of our book club questions? Phew! I’ve read some excellent self-help books lately.
In 2020 I have a bunch of “Morgan” activities planned- which I am super excited about! I have a couple sister’s dates planned throughout the year and of course my monthly meeting/nights out with my book club girls. What would make you feel more you? Plan something- and do it! Getting time away from motherhood allows one the chance to recharge and refuel. Missing those kiddies for the night will, in turn, help you be a better mom when you return- trust me! What do you- personally- want to accomplish this year?
Taking a break from parenthood and going on a date as husband and wife is beneficial to feel like human beings once more. If you need more convincing why you should date your spouse head here. Back to business… plan a couple’s trip! A night away, dinner and a movie, go on a date- something and anything to charge as a couple. Decide when to have a weekly/monthly date or maybe plan just one big anniversary trip. I know when I plan a trip for just my husband and I that event is something we look forward to. 2020 is actually the year when my husband and I are going on not one- but two- solo trips without kids. Huzzah!
We booked our cruise through Get Away Today and I can’t wait to share more details on how we are saving even more money going on a cruise with our favorite vacation company. I’m so dang excited for our anniversary trip and a week long cruise with my siblings and their spouses. Oh what fun! How would you like your relationship as a couple to improve? What will you do as a couple this year?
What memories do you want to create with your family this year? What summer trips could you take as a family? We ask ourselves all the time, Where should we go camping this summer? Yes, I am already planning out our summer trips trying to make the most of summer vacation is the best! We also live in Southern Utah- one of the prettiest places in the World. Yes, I said the world- you’ve seen Zion pictures right? Stunning!
Our family’s goal is to have more fun! To enjoy the outdoors by taking fun bike rides on the trails around our home and explore and hike the National Parks here. I also make goals with and for each of my children so I can help them grow and improve. For instance, we signed up my four-year-old for soccer for the first time, and Shane (the man who played through college) will be his coach- I am excited to see both of them grow this Spring. What do you want to do as a family this year? Think BIG! Plan for something awesome!
Make realistic goals and over the top crazy big goals. My overall goal every year is: continue to stay out of debt and we have an aggressive plan to continue to save our money monthly. Are you currently drowning in debt? There are so many resources and helpful guides to cut down and eliminate personal debt. Does this goal appeal to you? Want to join in on the fun? I have a full- in detail blog post prepared for you guys! But here’s a small taste for now…
I like to read money books, and the Rich Dad Poor Dad book series has seriously changed our life! We paid off $8,000 in vehicle debt in seven months and put into saving $1,000. There was sacrifice, we both donated plasma for six months and at times it was hard to say no to non-budgeted activities – but there is nothing better in this world than seeing a debt gradually dwindle away to nothing! Now, we still have our van loan but our student loans of over $10,000 are now paid off. So, recap- same year, same job just lifestyle habits changed and doing things on the side to make money- we paid all of this debt off- IN THE SAME YEAR my friends.
How did we do it? Good gravy soo much sacrifice and playing our finances smart. Find margins where you can take away those “extra” expenses and look for ways to make money on the side are key to getting out of debt faster. Check out this book for more margin and saving ideas. And of course-there is Dave Ramsey- another fantastic financial source. I highly suggest getting the Rich Dad Poor Dad series too to have a tangible debt helper and because- it’s awesome. Just remember- there is sacrifice in the beginning, but the sooner you have those little debts no longer nagging the brain, the happier you will feel because you are free!
I am a firm believer in self- improvement, self-enlightenment and spiritual growth through scripture study. Admittedly my desire to dive head deep into the scriptures and fuel myself with promised spiritual knowledge has lacked for years- we’ll blame this on exhaustion of daily life with kids and laziness…. However new year, new desire, new goals! Dedicating time during naptime or in the quiet of the night before heading to bed is a great idea to pull out the scriptures. Meditating is another great way to feel enlightened. I meditate during yoga and I love the sense of peace I feel afterward. Whatever your element of spiritual growth is, find a way to improve it this year. Another simple goal I have this year- making our Sundays more delightful. Jennica’s fantastic article suggests making a Sabbath a delight. Need some Sunday goal ideas? Head here.
Lastly, Physical Goals:
When people make New Year’s resolutions, those goals always seem to stem from losing weight, working out, etc. If these are the type of goals you choose to set this year then go for it! What motivates you to lose that weight? How will you do it? Write those plans down in detail, find a buddy that has the same goals and hold each other accountable this year. Besides, working out is much more fun when you do it with a friend.
My physical goals are different, personally, I can not own a scale. From my own nasty adolescent experience of bulimia and anorexia, I choose not to have a scale in our home. I choose to focus on the way that I feel versus the number on the scale. And most importantly, I don’t want my own adolescent insecurities to rub off on my beautiful daughter.
So my physical goals this year are to LOVE me, and that means, all of me including my post-baby body… I am still human and still trying to find love for that body too. My focus is to feel healthy and to eat more of my fruits and veggies instead of focusing on the foods that I should and should not eat. Water- drink more of it. And since I enjoyed the 5K I did in December with my book club ladies many years ago- I now participate in 3-4 different 5k’s throughout the year- and yes, I drag my husband along too because we are stronger together.
Friends, setting goals for the year does not need to happen the day after New Years like my mother encouraged me to do, new goals can be set any time of the year. Ask yourself, if you want to change, why put it off one more day? Dream big! Make outrageous, never going to happen goals- because with the right amount of planning and actions, those outrageous dreams just might come true.
My teenage dream was to travel to Europe and when I was invited with a touring group called, Utah Ambassadors of Music, I was excited. I remember my mother sitting down with me on the front porch peering over the beautiful brochure of European pictures and we examined the incredible places and adventures I could go on. My heart pounded in my chest and I immediately teared up- seeing the unobtainable price tag to my month long dream trip. There was no way I could afford such a dream.
My mother let me cry on her shoulder, she listened and wiped the tears from my eyes then after awhile she whispered, “Dream Big my darling, dreaming is free. Now, make a plan.” Those words sunk in to my core and they have made me become who I am. Dreaming is free, but making a plan requires action and after a year of hard work, I paid for that dream trip, went to Europe and loved every second. In fact, I can’t wait to go again.
You’ve heard my goals for 2020. I have given you the list of 6 categories to pin down some life adventure goals. In fact, our adorable and talented designer Tiffaynee has provided us with a great printable for goal making here…. and if you want a more simple goal sheet to share with your kids- check out this darling printable here.
Print off one of these documents and write down what you and your family would like to accomplish this year. Did you write down some big goals? Good! Don’t try to accomplish it all in one day, take a nibble of the goal and slowly chew, swallow and repeat until that goal is finished and can be crossed off the list. You’ve got this! Remember, dreaming is free, making goals is easy- make a plan, act on those goals and you too can make 2020 awesome.
Best of luck!