The day after New Years, my mother would call the family to the dinner table and make us write our goals down for the year. I remember thinking writing goals down for the year was silly, when technically- half of the school year was over. To make my mother happy, I would write goals centered around school and friends. Once in high school, my mother’s New Years resolutions requirements required specific details in certain categories- which I found annoying and time consuming. Now that I’m older and certainly much wiser- I understand the necessity to write down specific goals to work toward them and see progression in the smallest form. There is nothing more fulfilling than having a checklist with items actually getting crossed off!
Social media has lots of positive and negative literature about New Years Resolutions. One might question, How does one night change anything? The truth is- one night doesn’t change everything… but it can change one’s perspective. In January we can take the opportunity to reflect on our previous year of our personal growth and choose to make the following year better. Now that I am married and have a family, my goals list has expanded to six categories:
Individual Goal: Let’s start with the most importantly goal first –you.
One of our Mommy Convos writers briefly mentioned the safety procedures for a passenger on a crashing plane. The passenger must first put on their own oxygen mask before assisting others with theirs. You can not help others with their oxygen mask if you yourself do not have it on! This safety concept not only applies to flying but to life as: mothers caregivers, maid, pack mule, chef, carpool queen and the soap watching- bon-bon eating women (ya right!). Taking time to think about and care for number one isn’t something to be ashamed of, it is necessary! So here’s the first easy task…. think about yourself, as an important human being in your family-take care of YOU! What do you want this year?
What do I want this year? I’ll tell you! I want to sleep more at night. (My baby is one, I should get more sleep by now right?) I want to read more books. I love to read, but don’t make the time for it- this year I am determined to make a dent in the pile of books sitting next to my bed that need to be read. Anyone read the Cinder series? My sister gifted the whole series to me last Christmas and I’ve only finished Cinder. This year- I’m finishing them all!
In 2019 I have a bunch of “Morgan” activities planned- which I am super excited about! I’m having a sisters weekend in Vegas to see a Broadway show in February, a Vegas concert I’m attending with friends this Spring and of course my monthly meeting/nights out with my book club girls. What would make you feel more you? Plan something- and do it! Getting time away from motherhood allows one the chance to recharge and refuel. Missing those kiddies for the night will in turn help you be a better mom when you return- trust me! What do you- personally- want to accomplish this year?
Taking a break from parenthood and going on a date as husband and wife is beneficial to feel like human beings once more. If you need more convincing why you should date your spouse head here. Back to business… plan a couples trip! A night away, dinner and a movie, go on a date- something and anything to charge as a couple. Decide when to have a weekly/monthly date or maybe plan just one big anniversary trip. I know when I plan a trip for just my husband and I that event is something we look forward to.
This year Shane and I will be married eleven years! Holy hana- feeling old! Since our little man was a newborn for our tenth anniversary- we plan to do something big for our eleventh- a cruise in the fall! And I can not wait to book it! How would you like your relationship as a couple to improve? What will you do as a couple this year?
What memories do you want to create with your family this year? What summer trips could you take as a family? We ask ourselves all the time, Where should we go camping this summer? Yes, I am already planning out our summer trips trying to make the most of summer vacation is the best! We also live in Southern Utah- one of the prettiest places in the World. Yes, I said the world- you’ve seen Zion pictures right? Stunning!
Our family goal is to have more fun! To enjoy the outdoors by taking fun bike rides on the trails around our home and explore and hike the National Parks here. I also make goals with and for each of my children so I can help them grow and improve. For instance, we signed up my four year old for soccer for the first time, and Shane (the man who played through college) will be his coach- I am excited to see both of them grow this Spring. What do you want to do as a family this year? Think BIG! Plan for something awesome!
Make realistic goals and over the top crazy big goals. My overall goal every year is: pay off debt and lay out an aggressive plan for current debt and not to go further into debt. There are so many resources and helpful guides to cut down and eliminate personal debt. Does this goal appeal to you? Want to join in on the fun? Here’s a few ideas how…
I like to read money books, and the Rich Dad Poor Dad book series has seriously changed our life! We paid off $8,000 in vehicle debt in seven months and put into saving $1,000. There was sacrifice, we both donated plasma for six months and at times it was hard to say no to non-budgeted activities – but there is nothing better in this world than seeing a debt gradually dwindle away to nothing! Now, we are still far from being completely debt free (dang student loans!!) but we are doing it! Find margins where you can take away those “extra” expenses and looking for ways to make money on the side are key to getting out of debt faster. Check out this book for more margin and saving ideas.
I watched an awesome YouTube channel last night produced by Melea Johnson- a total steal- of a-deal- shopper. Melea shares their personal financial debt story and teaches which debt to eliminate first and utilizing the “snowball” effect sooner. If you are serious about getting out of debt- Melea has great ideas, but I highly suggest getting the Rich Dad Poor Dad series too to have a tangible debt helper and because- it’s awesome. Just remember- there is sacrifice in the beginning, but the sooner you have those little debts no longer nagging the brain, the happier you will feel because you are free!
I am a firm believer in self- improvement, self-enlightenment and spiritual growth through scripture study. Admittedly my desire to dive head deep into the scriptures and fuel myself with promised spiritual knowledge has lacked for years- we’ll blame this on exhaustion of daily life with kids and laziness…. However new year, new desire, new goals! Dedicating time during naptime or in the quiet of the night before heading to bed is a great idea to pull out the scriptures. Meditating is another great way to feel enlightened. I meditate during yoga and I love the sense of peace I feel afterwards. Whatever your element of spiritual growth is, find a way to improve it this year. Another simple goal I have this year- making our Sundays more delightful. Jennica’s fantastic article suggests making a Sabbath a delight. Need some Sunday goal ideas? Head here.
Lastly, Physical Goals:
When people make New Years resolutions, those goals always seem to stem from loosing weight, working out etc. If these are the type of goals you choose to set this year then go for it! What motivates you to loose that weight? How will you do it? Write those plans down in detail, find a buddy that has the same goals and hold each other accountable this year. Besides, working out is much more fun when you do it with a friend.
My physical goals are different, personally, I can not own a scale. From my own nasty adolescent experience of bulimia and anorexia I choose not to have a scale in our home. I choose to focus on the way that I feel verses the number on the scale. And most importantly, I don’t want my own adolescent insecurities to rub off on my beautiful daughter. So my physical goals this year is to LOVE me, and that means, all of me including my post-baby body… I am still human and still trying to find love for that body too.
For my physical goal this year, I’m choosing to focus on how I feel, and listen to my body. If I am playing with my kids and feel winded- probably should run more than once a week consistently. If I feel sluggish during the day- go to bed and get more sleep. My focus is to feel healthy and to eat more of my fruits and veggies instead of focusing on the foods that I should and should not eat. Water- drink more of it. And since I enjoyed the 5K I did in December with my book club ladies, I want to stretch myself and work up toward accomplishing a half-marathon for 2019. Why not? I can do anything I set my mind too.
Friends, setting goals for the year does not need to happen the day after New Years like my mother encouraged me to do, new goals can be set any time of the year. Ask yourself, if you want to change, why put it off one more day? Dream big! Make outrageous, never going to happen goals- because with the right amount of planning and actions, those outrageous dreams just might come true.
My teenage dream was to travel to Europe and when I was invited with a touring group called, Utah Ambassadors of Music, I was excited. I remember my mother sitting down with me on the front porch peering over the beautiful brochure of European pictures and we examined the incredible places and adventures I could go on. My heart pounded in my chest and I immediately teared up- seeing the unobtainable price tag to my month long dream trip. There was no way I could afford such a dream.
My mother let me cry on her shoulder, she listened and wiped the tears from my eyes then after awhile she whispered, “Dream Big my darling, dreaming is free. Now, make a plan.” Those words sunk in to my core and they have made me become who I am. Dreaming is free, but making a plan requires action and after a year of hard work, I paid for that dream trip, went to Europe and loved every second. In fact, I can’t wait to go again.
You’ve heard my goals for 2019. I have given you the list of 6 categories to pin down some life adventure goals. In fact, our adorable and talented designer Tiffaynee has provided us with a great printable for goal making here….
Print off this document and write down what you’d like to accomplish this year. Did you write down some big goals? Good! Don’t try to accomplish it all in one day, take a nibble of the goal and slowly chew, swallow and repeat until that goal is finished and can be crossed off the list. You’ve got this! Remember, dreaming is free, making goals is easy- make a plan, act on those goals and you too can make 2019 awesome.
Best of luck!