As moms, we usually desire everything to turn out perfectly. We overload our plates, get stressed out and sometimes take the joy out of the Holiday season. There are many ways we put personal pressure on ourselves during this time of year. Here are three ways to avoid and alleviate the pressure we often create.
1. Let Others Pitch In
One thing I tend to think during the Holidays is: I need to do everything on my own. I’m not much of a cooker so people already know I’ll bring a dessert or something simple to Thanksgiving so I’m cool there. But, for Christmas, I seem to think I need to do all the shopping, wrapping and putting the toys together. In reality, I can ask my husband to pitch in, we will probably have fun doing it together. End result: I’m not so stressed out.
Let the kids pitch in! I plan to do this more this year. Although the kids wrapping is… questionable. I’m sure we will have lots of fun wrapping things together. My husband and I are trying to teach our children to focus on giving to others and I know when they get to help, they’ll feel a sense of pride. At least my mom will love getting a kid-wrapped present from the grandkids. I mean, people just rip off the wrapping anyways, it doesn’t need to be perfect.
2. Don’t Do So Much
Every year I have a goal to not do or buy so much, but somehow I get sucked into the Holiday consumerism. Ugh. This year for Christmas I want to give my kids, “The Golden Three” (I just made that up…I hope it sticks hehe).
1. Something they really want.
2. Something they need.
3. Something they will wear.
Since they are still little I want to set an expectation of giving instead of receiving. I think this can really be done at any stage in life, though, with clear and honest communication.
3. Change Expectations
Speaking of expectations, it is important to change our expectations. With any Holiday and with social media ever-present, it is easy to compare and want everything “perfect.” I think changing what “perfect” actually looks like in our lives is key. “Perfect” can be making awesome memories or just spending time together. Your Holiday season doesn’t necessarily have to be a perfect meal, decorations or presents.
I find when I change (not necessarily lower) my expectations and try to be grateful for time, family, and the Holiday season, I steer clear of disappointment. Making it clear to my family what the Holidays will entail can also help keep kids away from disappointment as well.
This time of year can be so magical and full of memories. But, it can also be filled with sadness, anxiety, and unnecessary stress. When we focus on the good, let others help/be involved, don’t overload our to-do list, and change our expectations of how things “should” be; we alleviate an enormous amount of personal pressure. After all, we are all doing the best we can-whatever that may look like.
What is one thing you are going to take off your plate this Holiday season?