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A Fun Lesson to Give Kids the Boundaries They Need and Crave

in Parenting, The Good Life, What's Working Wednesday on 09/08/17

Kids thrive in well-defined boundaries.

Have you ever felt like your kids are “out-of-control”? Unfortunately, a loved one once TOLD me that my kids were out of control and that they needed more boundaries! (yeah #thathurt 😉 ) Well, no worries friends, this quick lesson and fun activity should really help! For us, this little training was huge! I know I could see real benefits, even 18 months after doing this lesson with my family. I even had a friend tell me she tried this exact lesson outline from our blog and was so happy that her kids were able to finally grasp some of the boundaries they were trying to teach in their home!

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There is much more I could go into about the “low point” that this lesson originated from, but I’ll get to the meat: Sometimes people have advice for you, and depending on the timing, tone, etc— it can hurt! But, I think advice almost always comes from love, and often it can help you in one way or another! My generation often gets turned off by advice, but I know I would not have created this lesson without a loved one communicating with me. So, it’s ok! Take the best of the situation and see what happens 🙂

My kids were (and still are, at times) out of control.

So- what can we do about it? Here’s what we did:

I gave this “training lesson” one Monday night shortly after my baby was born. I am SO happy we took the time to do it! The boundaries in our home are now much clearer because of a little communication.

Kids need boundaries and this is a super easy, fun and effective way to go over the boundaries you want them to know! Parenting hack for a fun family night! How to teach your kids about saftefy boundaries and boundaries in your own home an a few simple steps with little preparation. Teaching kids boundaries. Family home evening activity. How to teach kids boundaries. fun family home evening idea. Easy FHE. FHE ideas. FHE idea for toddlers. FHE to teach kids boundaries they need and crave. family meetings. PPS family meeting idea. Positive parenting solutions. Amy Mccready. mommy convos. mommyconvos FHE ideas.

I’ll jump right to it! Here is the lesson:

Preparation:
  1. Read through the lesson and make any notes for things you want to bring up.
  2. Talk to your spouse about the lesson so they know what’s going on and how they can support you.
  3. Hide several small treats around the house for your kids to find.
  4. Start the Family Meeting with a song, a prayer, and/or a scripture if desired.
Script:

What is a Boundary? (It’s a well-defined space. The boundaries to your bedroom is all the area inside the walls of your room. Those are the boundaries of your room. The boundaries for our yard are all the area inside our fence and out to the road.)

What do you think the boundaries are for a soccer game? (Inside the lines!)

Let’s pretend that we’re playing in a soccer game. You get a chance to kick the ball, and it goes out of the field, beyond the lines. It’s gone “out of bounds!” But let’s pretend there are no lines, or boundaries where you are supposed to play the game. The ball starts heading out toward the road. Now the whole team is following this ball out into the street! That doesn’t sound like a very fun way to play soccer, does it? We need boundaries: an area that we stay in to play our game!

Boundaries are good for all kinds of situations. Where is it safe for you to play outside? Talk about a clear line that you are okay with your kids playing without asking. For us, the kids have to ask to play outside.  Then if they are playing outside, we explain how the boundaries are from one neighbor on the left to another neighbor on the right.  

If you go out of the boundaries, I may not be able to find you and something dangerous could happen to you. Consequences for playing out of the boundaries could be that the child cannot play with friends the rest of the day, and the next day.

The boundaries keep us safe and happy.

Can you guys think of some other boundaries that are good to have? You can talk about body safety boundaries: where is it okay to take off our clothing, etc. You could mention boundaries at school or elsewhere.

People have personal boundaries. We don’t jump on people without asking first, right? When we are at someone’s house, we don’t open their fridge or pantry, right? We also don’t go in the mom and dad’s room without asking first. We don’t look in someone’s purse- that is their property and we need to ask before we touch their things. That is showing good manners.

Now the activity:

I’ve hidden some little treats throughout the house. As we go on a hunt to find them, we’re going to make sure you guys know where the boundaries are for you in our own house! There are lots of areas that are in the boundaries for you kids, and there are some areas in the house that are just for Mom and Dad. When we get close to an area that is not for kids then Mom and Dad are going to tickle you and say “OUT OF BOUNDS!” That will help the kids get a clear picture of what is okay for them to get into. The tickling helps them experience a big sensory response for places that they shouldn’t be going. Plus, it’s fun!

*Walk around the house look for treats. Be sure to take them around to places you don’t want them to go- for example:
  • Laundry room cupboards
  • Pantry
  • Fridge/Freezer
  • Mommy’s makeup
  • Mom and Dad’s clothes
  • Office drawers or cabinets
  • Bathroom cabinet etc.

All the while, let them be on the hunt for treats to eat along the way and explaining where it’s fine to explore. Be sure to have fun while saying “OUT OF BOUNDS!” when they are approaching an area that is not meant for kids to get into.

Close the lesson by showing the kids the last hiding spot and enjoy the final treat. We had a yummy loaf of zucchini bread.

Ask if they have any questions about things or places they can or can’t get into. Make sure they understand where the most important boundaries are and any consequences you’d like to reveal in advance.

Click here for a printable version of the lesson

This training lesson made for a really fun experience for my kids. Now months later, when they go into the pantry, I can giggle and say “out of bounds” and they say something like, “Oh yeah Mom!” and giggle as they run out.

My normal response without this training would be more nagging/yelling as I tell my kids to get out of an potentially dangerous or messy area. This training has kept the reminder a light-hearted and positive interaction with my kids. For my two oldest’s personalities, this fun approach is key to make it a successful parenting technique. There are other ways that could reach your child in the way that THEY need- and I have a great book recommendation to figure that out— The Child Whisperer. It’s an awesome resource on finding methods to reach your kids unique personality best! I love this quote from the author:

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This lesson engages the playful side of my young kids, and so it’s been really effective for us. I love that this lesson addresses many important and helpful aspects:

  • Safe playing boundaries
  • Body safety boundaries
  • Boundaries in our own home to eliminate some stress on mom’s part
  • Manners for when kids are a guest in someone’s home.

Another favorite parenting resource I am pulling from, and would recommend is Amy McCready’s positive parenting solutions program. We love her program, and she also recommends holding weekly family meetings. This training works well for family meeting material and to train our kids to know what’s expected of them!

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I hope you find this lesson easy, fun and helpful for your family. It hurts to be stretched and in-conflict with others, but in that stretching, we grow.

In conclusion, the whole idea behind this training and article is to work WITH the personalities you have been given to work with, not AGAINST.  Your young kids may need some training on boundaries, but you can still keep it light-hearted and fun.

Have you ever experienced that feeling of shame when someone tells you what you’re doing wrong? If so, how did you handle it? Let us know in our facebook group! Good luck fellow momma! I wish you the best in your family training!

-Jennica

About Jennica

Jennica is a mom to four energetic girls, and wife to her love-at-second-sight husband. She ran a cleaning business for ten years, and would love to see the day that her entire house could be clean-- all at the same time. Until then, you’re likely to find her folding big loads of laundry while listening to inspiring podcasts, or chasing her little girls down the street!

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