When I was pregnant with baby number three many, many people told me how difficult three kids would be and I immediately became worried and quite literally had nightmares of drowning in kids. Imagine my surprise when I prepared for the worse to discover that parenting three kids has been rather easy. –Quick everyone knock on wood for me so I don’t jinx myself!!–Instead of frightening me before my baby was born, I wish people would have told me how easy three kids could be by empowering my parenting abilities. Now, before I set anyone up for failure- here are the three reasons why I have confidence in parenting three.
Experience- need I say it again- EXPERIENCE!
See these two little people hanging around my feet? They are still alive, kicking, surviving, actually love each other and well- enjoy playing with each other. I must be doing something right! Right? My second baby was just terrible dealing with all sorts of undiagnosed medical problems so my husband and I could easy write a novel on the million ways to safely stop a crying baby. – Don’t worry I’ll be posting our tips and tricks of surviving a colicky baby in another posts soon— If you are like me, your previous baby was so tough that the next baby could try to throw you a curve ball and lucky you- you’ve got lots of tricks up your sleeve and can totally handle it.
Due to past experience running this circus, you know what kind of personal, baby, family and meal help you’ll need. You have an idea of what the delivery recovery will be like so you prepare for the personal down time. You know you will be sleep-deprived so you arrange for babysitters during the day. And of course food- where my concerns (pregnant/nursing or not) always reside. If you are fortunate enough to have a great religious support system, good neighbors and friends- they usually have the first couple of days home from the hospital covered food wise. If all else fails- hit up Costco before your due date and get some frozen meals stocked in your freezer-done and done. Most importantly- don’t be afraid to ask and receive help! There is no shame in admitting that you aren’t Wonder Woman. Being perfect and having all your life together is boring anyway!
As a parent are never alone. Hopefully you have lived in your place for awhile and are comfortable asking for help from a support group that will surround you during those first couple of weeks with a new baby. You may have a spouse/partner heavily involved, family members, your parents or in laws, friends, religious affiliation, neighborhood, book club, Facebook group, blog space… these resources are everywhere filled with people that have been in your shoes before with answers and solutions to your questions. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your fantastic support group for a quick grocery run, a girls night out, play group outing or babysitting help for a date night with your partner. Sometimes a mama just needs a time-out to survive- so do it!
Parenting is meant to be a little challenging, but it isn’t meant to be done on your own, back-breaking and difficult to the point that you want give up everyday. When friends talked about how hard having their third kid was they filled me with dread, fear and doubt of my own abilities. I wish someone would have empowered my parenting skills saying, “You’re thriving with two kids, why not three? You’ve got this!” So I’m telling you dear reader- if you are the experienced mother with lots of kids, or the mother that is just beginning this phase of parenthood these three tips apply to you too! You have babysitting experiences, you have other kids you’ve watched, know that asking and receiving help is okay, and a noble way for your support system to serve and help you. Motherhood is seriously the best and most challenging part of my life, but with your motherhood experience and getting help from your already established support system know that you too can have confidence in parenting three! You’ve got this!