So glad your back for more of our Elevate Your Vibe series. To catch up just click here! Moving right along Dr. Hawkins scale of vibrating emotions, we find ourselves at 175 out of 1000. This is where a handful of emotions reside and were going to take a quick peek at all five of them learning simple tips on how to rise above them!
Let’s start with pride.
Pride is simply defined as: a feeling of being better than others. Hmmm. While this may be satisfying to our ego, it ultimately builds a gap between us and those ‘others,’ which in turn keeps us from experiencing the joy that comes from being unified with others.
I love this quote from author James Ferrell:
Anything that makes me feel better (or worse) than another is darkness; anything that makes me feel one with others is divine. So the natural instinct to try to lift others by helping them to feel good about themselves relative to others is exactly the wrong way to help. True happiness is found not in a belief that I am better, but in the obliteration of any need to be.
Wow. Definitely a little deep, but pretty darn profound. Next time you catch yourself in that natural instinct of helping others feel good about themselves relative to others, try leaving the comparisons of others out of it, focusing simply on them and their personal goals and then tell me how it goes (: Let’s jump on over to discouragement.
When I was younger, a successful, wise family friend and father to my friend once told me that to be discouraged was selfish. What?! At first, it took me a minute to comprehend the magnitude of his statement. He further questioned, “who are you thinking about and focused on when you are discouraged? Yourself.”
Next comes blame.
Blame is one I’ve been working on with my five year old. Whenever I stumble upon a fight, a mess, or a conflict between my five and three year old. My five year old doesn’t hesitate to say, “he started it” or “it’s his fault”. What her little five year old mind/body/spirit can’t quite comprehend is that when you push blame, you are essentially giving your power away. Now that it’s ‘their’ fault, there’s nothing that you can do to change/fix the problem. You’ve quickly become the powerless and defeated victim. When you take ownership, with the statement “I am responsible” only then do you maintain the power to make necessary changes. Next time you find yourself blaming someone, look inside and ask ‘what could I do differently to avoid this next time?’ There will always be something if you look with an open mind! Pretty cool stuff.
Next on the list is worry.
As mommas, we know all too well how to worry and fill our minds with ‘what ifs’ and ‘worst case scenarios’. I know that some are more prone to worry than others. But if you find yourself in the sometimes debilitating vibe of worry, remember these simple one liners:.
What worries you masters you. -Haddon W. Robinson
Worrying implies that we don’t quite trust that God is big enough, powerful enough or loving enough to take care of what’s happening in our lives. -Francis Chan
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its peace, strength and joy. -Anonymous
And one of my personal favorites, the serenity prayer…
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Just remember, worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but doesn’t get you anywhere.
And last but not least, doubt.
Raise your hand if you’ve experienced that confident assurance in a decision you’ve made and so naturally you move forward with it and then- bam! The paralysis of doubt creeps in. Has this ever happened to you? What did you do?
I was running errands the other day driving through town about to pass Costco. I thought about stopping, running in to grab some fish for dinner and head on home. With all three of my littles in tow I knew shopping would be quite the endeavor and decided against stopping. I felt fine about my decision knowing I could easily figure out dinner based on the food we already had. As I’m passing my chance to turn into the Costco parking lot my doubting mind pipes up. You should have just stopped. Now dinner is going to come from the freezer, oh my! And other awful remarks…I ignored my doubt and went home anyway.
What’s funny, is later that afternoon as my good friend and neighbor dropped off my oldest from preschool she said, “Hey I’m heading to Costco, need anything?” I reply, “Yes actually, could you please grab me some fresh salmon, and leave your kids here to play while you’re at it.” Win. Win. Glad my doubt didn’t push me over the edge on this one, because it saved both my neighbor and I from chasing toddlers around a warehouse full of food!
Although this is a very small example, the principles apply to much bigger choices too. Well, there you have it! Pride, discouragement, blame, worry and doubt in a nutshell. When have you experienced these emotions and then risen out of them? Please share!
Next we’ll be covering courage and how that can be the springboard for jumping up into the higher vibes of love, gratitude and joy. You won’t want to miss out!