Welcome back to the Elevate Your Vibe Series! If you missed the earlier articles, you can catch up right here!
Today we dive into the topic of grief. Grief moves us up the scale just a tad, to 75 on Dr. Hawkins scale of 0-1000. If you have experienced a loss or more particularly the loss of a loved one- this is where you are currently resonating. Then, let’s take a look at why it may be serving you (subconsciously of course) to hold onto this feeling. Is it possible you believe you are dishonoring the one you’ve lost by being happy again. Maybe the grief is meeting one or more of your basic human needs like: love and connection. You might be scared to move forward with the possibility of losing the love and connection that you are receiving from those who are reaching out to you due to your loss.
I recently ran into a middle aged woman in my community who buried her husband a few weeks ago. A FEW WEEKS AGO! He was suffering from a chronic illness for quite some time. A real fresh loss. I was amazed at the smile on this woman’s face as she told me she was on her way to visit a neighbor (with fresh flowers in hand) who recently underwent surgery. WOW! What an example! I hugged her and shared my deepest apologies for her loss and my admiration for her strength. That is a conscious creator in action, never choosing to fall into the category or mentality of victim. Living to GIVE, SERVE & LOVE.
Another woman shares here how she was able to shift out of grief after losing her mother and back into love, passion and gratitude. The final words in her story are beautiful. She quoted, “And to truly commemorate a loved one who has passed, one must live-and live passionately. Make the dead live anew, not just through old memories, but through new ones you forge–moving forward.” I just love that quote! It is so positive and hopeful.
Now, let’s take a look at grief coming from other places such as losing a job, a possession, health, and/or a relationship. These same theories apply. Listen to Dr. Hawkin’s, (the creator of the scale of emotional vibration) statement in his book Power vs. Force on this topic, “Part of the syndrome of loss is the notion of the irreplaceability of what has been lost or that which it symbolized. There is a generalization from the particular so that the loss of a loved one is equated with the loss of love itself. At this level, such emotional losses may trigger a serious depression…”
In Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now he teaches that all pain comes from resistance. This past year, I experienced the loss of my dear cousin who was more like a brother to me. He lived with my family for awhile and we traveled together quite a bit. The first words to escape my lips when I heard of his passing were, “No, no!” I wanted so badly for it not to be true, to maybe even turn back time.
The pain stayed with me for a time until I left the negative place of resistance and moved into acceptance. This didn’t happen instantly. Quite slowly, in fact. As I witnessed his parents and siblings deal gracefully with my cousin’s passing, and as I listened to the speakers at his funeral honoring his life with love, I felt peace. With this new found acceptance I felt I could do things that reminded me of him instead of welling up in grief. I felt gratitude for the fact that I was able to know him as long as I did; that he was indeed my cousin, and I was lucky to have spent so much time with him.
If grief is something you are ready to shift out of, believe that you can! Hope is real, change is possible, and you can move forward in a way that truly honors those who you’ve lost.
What have you done when you’ve experienced loss and its accompanying grief to help you move forward?
Have you observed someone else do this? Feel free to share in the comments!
Carpe diem,
Krissy
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Beautiful. I love your tie to Tolle. That is something I’m working on right now 😉