Welcome back to the elevate your vibe series! If you have missed previous posts, you can get all caught up here! Today were going to talk about jealousy. Jealousy moves us up the emotional scale of vibration to 125 out of 1000. This one is super easy to fall into as a mom. I mean picture it now: you see another mom at the park. She is showered, well dressed, and actually smiling excitedly at her happy children who are playing so well together. She takes the time to play with them instead of returning emails/texts, and even pulls out chopped fruits and veggies for them when they ask for a snack (and they eat them). Did you just start comparing yourself to her? Did a little bit of envy pop up out of nowhere?! Well surprise, I guess that means you’re human!
But what if humans, yes- you and me, could choose to be exceptional? That we could choose instead of being jealous to be inspired?! Usually the reason envy is showing its not-so-lovely face is because that person is emulating something you would like to be doing yourself. So, first take a step back from the situation. Then think to yourself, “what is it about this person or situation that is making me jealous? Was it the fact that she was well groomed, was it the excitement in her eyes towards her children, the healthy snacks??”
Next comes the opportunity to make a choice. You have a chance to be exceptional! You can choose to implement that trait, characteristic, or habit you find yourself envying and silently send the other mom a blessing of gratitude for inspiring you today. Even better, muster up the courage to introduce yourself to her and give her a compliment! You’re giving yourself the chance to enhance her day as well. Or, you can choose to silently criticize the other woman, create a story in your mind about why she can do those things and you can’t… Which version of you do you want to be?
Ever heard the quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy”? Well, there’s definitely some truth to that. I once had a client write this quote on his mirror as a daily reminder to stop comparing himself to others. Within a few weeks he reported that it helped him remember his own personal value and increased his personal joy in life.
It’s interesting to note that desire is placed with jealousy on the scale of emotional vibration and energy at 125. Dr. Hawkins, author of Power vs. Force and creator of the scale of emotional vibration states, Desire, however, is a much higher state than apathy or grief. In order to “get,” you have to first have the energy to “want.” He continues, “want can start people on the road to achievement.”
Referring back to the park and observing the other mom- turn that jealousy into inspiration and a desire to make some positive changes in your own life. Let it catapult you into achievement.
My challenge for you is to make the choice today to be intentional about not comparing yourself to others for the next 24 hours. That’s it. Just for today. If you find yourself starting to do just that and feel that envy creeping back up, quickly turn it around and recommit! If you enjoy the challenge and find it beneficial, commit to another 24 hours. One. Day. At. A. Time. That’s all we ever have to do.
Please share success stories of turning your jealousy into inspiration and positive action so we can all benefit! The next emotion we’ll be diving into is anger, which ranks just above jealousy/desire at 150. So stay tuned for some tips and info on anger and how to handle it!
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