I recently went on a “Mom’s Night Out” with some mom’s from the Mom’s Club I am in (I absolutely LOVE my mom’s club) and it got me thinking a lot. We went to a comedy club for a few hours. It was so simple, but it was so much fun! Besides me yawning halfway through (insert eye roll) and thinking that 10 o’clock was way past my bedtime (shaking head) it was so much fun! I know there are a lot of moms out there who would love a night out without kids, but for some reason we get in our own heads and talk ourselves out of it! Here are five reasons why you should DEF go:
1. Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
First of all, I love my kids beyond words, but sometimes I need a break from them. They are so cute and fill my heart with love, but they also wear me down and test me to every possible limit. I need some time away from them for my own sanity. I always end up missing them and all those feelings of “I am about to lose my mind” seem to slowly fade away.
2. No One Understands Your Life Like Another Mom
I used to think that when I went out I would not to talk about my kids, but now I have accepted the inevitable. The awesome thing about going out with other moms is that they totally get you. You can talk about being exhausted, about the new stages or changes your kids are going through, the crazy things your body is going through. Talk about significant others, and so on and chances are, at least one other mom will relate. This always makes me do a sigh of relief because I know I’m not the only one.
3. Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
I love having date nights or just alone time in general with my husband, but women are different. There is something about being around other estrogen that is comforting. Most women are social in nature and it seems like we (usually) thrive in numbers. There are just certain things I can talk to my women friends about that feels more validated then when I talk to my husband. My husband is amazing and usually listens intently. The problem is, he just does not know how to respond. Our brains are totally different and there are some things men just don’t understand. That’s when you gotta holla at your girls!
4. I Am Not a Party Animal
I was so relived the other night when I mentioned that I was yawning and another mom said that it was past her bedtime too. The show literally finished right before 10 p.m. and we were all like “cool, time for bed.” I have never been a night person, but having kids has exaggerated that immensely. Sometimes it’s all I can do to make it to 9 p.m. I know that when I go out with other moms there is no expectation of staying out until crazy hours of the night. We all have our mom job to get back to in the morning (or later that night..).
5. I Love Leggings, But….
True confession here: I pretty much live in leggings. My life consists of constantly chasing kids around or doing things around the house. I don’t have the time or energy to glam up every day. I am thankful everyday that leggings exist. They are truly a blessing in my life. Although I love them wholeheartedly, there are times when I want to feel like I am not a teenage boy in my stretchy pants. Sometimes I want to get dressed up, smell nice and look pretty.
Going out with other moms and seeing each other get dressed up is always like an episode of “What Not to Wear.” We see each other in the park in full on sweatshirts and stretchy pants then we go out and have to do a double take to recognize each other. Ok, it is not that extreme… but I must say we do clean up nicely. I literally plan what I’m going to wear based on if I’m chasing toddlers or not. Can I run fast enough to catch a falling child in these? Will I be able to bend down to lift a child without ripping a hole in my pants on the way down? If the answer is no, then I save those clothes for Mom’s Night Out ’cause anything goes!
Like I mentioned before, I love my kids entirely. I also love the identity I have as mom. I love hanging out with them and spending most of my time taking care of tiny humans. But, there is something very freeing about driving the car instead of the SUV. Taking a break and having fun is literally good for your mental health. If you don’t trust me, trust the science! If you need a good laugh- check out this movie Mom’s Night Out- I literally could not stop laughing on how true this movie depicts life. And yet again- why we all deserve a mom’s night out.
***Let us know what you like to do for your nights out!