The 5 G’s
A Conversation About Motherhood
When I was younger, I dreamt about motherhood. The joy of having a cute little baby love me, for me and rely on me fully. I dreamt about the cuddles, the kisses, the love, and just about how much fun it would be to be a mother… .that fantasy was something that I was so excited to bring to life someday. Well, that someday is here and while I have experienced all those wonderful benefits, there are a few hardships I definitely didn’t take into consideration. Thinking about the ups and downs of motherhood I came up with the 5 G’s. Hopefully they explain a lot of the different feelings that can come along with motherhood.
- Giving: I knew being a mother I would give of myself, but I didn’t know how much of myself I would have to give! Giving up control of your body and womb for your unborn child to grow for nine months, to giving up constant hours of sleep to help soothe your newborn, sick or scared child, or just worrying about your child at random times in the night. I have given the majority of my time and thoughts to my kids, I have given my love and attention, I have given up my last piece of candy (that one is one of the hardest!) Motherhood is full of giving up things, but we get much much more than we can ever give! The rewards of many slobbery smooches (pictured above!) and baby snuggles that we get throughout each day outweigh the difficulties that can come with giving.
- Gratitude: Never in my life have I felt so much gratitude as I have as a mother. I am grateful every day that I have been blessed with my beautiful kids. I am grateful that they chose me to be their mom. I am grateful for their health and happiness and for their cuddles and smiles. I am grateful that I get to spend time with them everyday day, that I get to teach them, but that I get to learn so much from them! I am grateful for their innocence and and their cute little personalities. I am grateful that they are who they are. I am ever grateful that I get to be their mom and that I am the vessel they used to come to this earth.
- Gambling: In a graduate degree program class my teacher said, “parenthood is a crapshoot”. I thought, what the heck! My teacher continued to explain how becoming a parent is a gamble. You don’t know what kind of child you are going to get. You could have a super calm and perfect child, or you could have a super needy or difficult child. You could even have a perfect child who turns into a nightmare of a teenager! The truth is you don’t know what kind of child you will get, but we have all made the gamble anyways. Heck I’ve gambled three times now! Even though it’s a gamble, I wouldn’t change anything about the kids I do have. Most days I feel like I won the powerball!
- Guessing: The kind of child you get is a gamble, but a lot of the decisions and choices you make for your child involve a lot of guesswork. I have guessed with different sleep methods, with potty training, with different products, different schedules, and the list goes on and on. Sometimes we don’t know what will work best for our children until we make a guess. Most of the time the risk is worth the reward…unless you try to potty train your twenty month old and end up cleaning up seventeen accidents (that’s a post in and of itself). Even though we get tons of advice from others, (especially off the internet!) the decisions we make for our children are ultimately up to us. What may have worked for another’s child, may not work for your child. Luckily we do have support systems (like this community blog!) to use for parenthood, but a lot of it is guess work with some fortunate outcomes.
- Giggling: This one is my favorite. From the first little smile your child does to the first major poopy blowout in a public venue, we are constantly giggling at and with our children. One of the reasons I started this blog was because of all the conversations I have had with my kids and other parents that have made me giggle. Kids are just happy little beings (most of the time) they are fun-loving and forgiving. There’s a reason “bringing out your inner child” is a saying. My kids bring about some of the happiest and silliest moments. We giggle together while having dance parties to the Frozen soundtrack. We giggle when they make Santa beards in the bathtub. Sometimes I get so frustrated that I have to giggle to keep from losing my cool. My conversations with my two-year-old make me giggle all the time. Most of the time I can’t understand him, but he is so serious about the stories he shares. My three-year-old corrects me and tells me “my shoes aren’t sandals, they’re flip-flops.” Sometimes in the moment I don’t giggle, but looking back on those conversations make me giddy. . I even giggle at myself when I try to pretend I have control over the different situations with my toddlers. Seriously- who am I kidding?!
Parenthood is full of ups and downs. The most important part to remember is that we have our families and we have others to help us figure out this crazy roller coaster ride. Thank goodness for giving, kids help bring out the most Christ-like attributes in us. I’m glad I get to guess and figure out things with my husband. What fun would parenthood be if we were able to predict and choose everything with our kids? It would take away from the surprises :).. As adults we are unique, our kids are unique, and our situations are unique. We have to figure it out with a lot of guessing. Giggling can be our saving grace. I am so thankful for every single silly moment and for the chances I have to be child-like with my kids.
Lots of love,
Can you think of any more G’s that you experience as a parent? What is your favorite G? Share some of your favorite moments with us!