The last few weeks have been rough for me. My husband was studying for an exam, which left me with the majority of the household responsibilities. It takes times like these to realize how much I appreciate my husband. I tend to forget how much easier it is to have an extra set of hands at bedtime to wrangle our three active kids. Although, this arrangement is for a short period of time, it has been hard. I found myself with an array of emotions of frustration especially with my children. My oldest has been challenging as it seems like my super obedient child turned into a small teenager. She suddenly had lots of attitude, arguing about everything, and throwing fits like I had never seen. I became frustrated and a few times was at my wits end. I decided I needed to ask for help.
In the past, I have been embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help or to ask for what I needed. I still find these tendencies a lot, but I’m trying to work on it. I decided to text my mom. She is amazing and super busy herself so I try not to bother her, but I really needed her that day. I text my mother and asked if she could come watch the kids for a few hours after she got off work so I could spend some time alone to refuel. She agreed without hesitation and fun Grandma came to the rescue to play with my kids. I knew my mother would come over and I don’t know why I was hesitant to ask. Most people who love you and the little people you have, why wouldn’t they want to help in whatever way they can?
My mother came to play with the kids and gave me a much-needed break. I went to TjMaxx and walked around the store without feeling rushed or frantic. I really enjoy shopping, even if it’s just window shopping. Like most mothers, I usually have the kids with me so shopping is rushed or I’m frantically trying to keep the kids from running around. This is why I mostly shop online–thank you Amazon Prime. This time, I looked at a whole rack of clothes. I went through every piece without keeping one eye on the clothing rack and the other eye on my cart full of children. The break was awesome!! After I was finished browsing, I bought two frozen drinks and delivered one to my husband while he studied. It felt great to have a mini chat without the interruption of the kids.
The two hours I spent away from home, I came home happier, felt refreshed and grateful and my kids seemed happier too. Granted, the kids did play with Grandma the last two hours… either way, I was patient with the bedtime routine. I know my mood directly influences my kids cuz we all know, “when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” 🙂
I realize now why asking for help is okay:
- You learn to be brave
- You can get what you need
- Someone gets the opportunity to serve
- You don’t have to regret or resent someone for not asking
In the future I will strive to ask for help to make sure my needs are being fulfilled. Now I understand that it is important to take care of myself, so I can take care of my children fully. What is something you need to ask for?